please stop calling trans women and transfeminine people "beautiful" when we tell you about the violence we experience.
what this does is perpetuate the myth that beauty protects us from violence (when, in fact, it is often our beauty and other's desire for it that results in violence). trans women and transfeminine people should have an intrinsic worth beyond our appearance. we shouldn't have to be beautiful in order to be real. we shouldn't have to be beautiful in order to be safe.
this is part of a larger project which expects women and femmes to love/beautify/self-care/heal/dress ourselves out of patriarchal violence instead of others being tasked with ending misogyny.
instead try: "i am sorry that happened. i wish i was there to fight for you. i promise i will do my best to fight transmisogyny and racism and create a safer world for you."
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